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People should negotiate relationship agreements.
Eventual conflict is inevitable in a long-term relationship and setting up rules of conduct limits possible solutions.
By setting pre-ordained rules, one has to try and speculatively plan for all possibly eventualities; certain situations are inevitably going to be missed (as none of us are omniscient), meaning that in some conflicts, the rules may well limit possible solutions.
the rules are a pre established solution to an eventual conflict, this saves time in discussions to determine who's wrong
Rules and agreements do not have to be prescriptive, they can be descriptive. A good rule to have in a relationship agreement is that in the case of an argument any violence against anything should cease the conversation. This does not limit solutions but can lessen harm.