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People should negotiate relationship agreements.
Having a formal arrangement undermines all sense of organic interpersonal communication; it is very false.
People and relationships grow, evolve and change. Setting rules at the beginning without considering changes may be a recipe for disaster.
Actually it can bolster organic communication by providing a framework and guidelines for partners to discuss concerns without worry of negative repercussions, consequences, or punishment.
As much as I love the anarchy approach.....It is better to know what your partner wants and expects. "Agreement" doesn't need to be a formal arrangement. This idea is about being honest at the beginning which will always have the most success.